The seven steps of arguing with ourslelves 1. What is the belief that I have? 2. What evidence is there to challenge this view? (The case for the prosecution.) 3. If the evidence isn’t enough: What alternative explanations are there to explain the situation? 4. If the alternative explanations and the evidence aren’t enough: What are the real consequences if my belief is correct? (So what?) 5. If you still hold on to your original belief: How useful is it to have this view? 6. Given the argument with myself, what do I need to do to improve the situation? 7. What will I do? When? Mirror, mirror One overly common and unhelpful self-belief that people have is ‘I am not attractive’. It comes in many forms, from ‘I will never find someone who wants to marry me’, through ‘No one ever looks at me in that way anymore’ to…